Friday, 3 April 2020

I miss you 'a-latte'

I'm seriously missing work today guys..

Its been exactly 18 days since I was behind that counter slinging java drinks and damn I'm jonesing to get back.

I just love hospitality so much.

Remember last year when I tried to move industries? That failed miserably haha but I learned a valuable lesson and returned to what I know and love.

I think I just lost my passion for a wee while and that's ok, but I'm glad it wasn't forever.

Making someone smile at 7am by remembering their drink order and serving it up with some friendly chatter, really brings a smile to my face.

I've spent over 16 years in the hospitality industry and I'm fast realizing that that won't be changing any time soon.

One of my goals in the industry, a close second to owning my own bar or cafe, is to work for Disney.

What better time than now to plan your dreams?!

Last week I wrote up my application for a position on the Disney cruise ship. I mean, it stops by this region of the world anyway, so why not hop on board and gain some valuable skills in customer service.

Obviously not till this whole pandemic is at bay and even then, not for a while after that. I'm really happy at my job and just love all my coworkers so much, but maybe sometime in the future, between leaving there and starting my own venture. Just maybe I could do a little magical stint with the happiest place on earth.

Fingers crossed.

In the meantime, I'm going to daydream about being back at the local cafe and living the dream with the best food & beverage team in View Royal.

And maybe I'll make a shaft because YOU know hehe

Love xo



Friday, 27 March 2020

I'm a little bit peeved!



I  got myself good & mad over the past couple of days, let me explain . .

The federal and provincial governments have announced financial aid plans for the nation, great right? 100%

Here's my blight.

The package offered is giving people $2000 income per month, plus an additional $500 rental subsidy - faaaantastic!!

Global crisis = Basic living amount assessed at $2500

Those on employment insurance, income assistance and disability receive less than 50% of this amount and are not eligible to apply for any of these new funding programs.

Crisis your whole life = $1100

Can anyone see the contradiction here?

Are those in crisis at any other point not entitled to the same standard of living as everyone else?

Average rent in this city alone is $900+.

So that gives those on assistance a maximum amount of $200 for hydro, internet, cell phone, insurance, medication, food and other expenses. (To give those in the UK some perspective, cell phone bills alone are easy $75+ in Canada)

Seems fair! NOT.

I'm absolutely fuming at this.

Then there's part two...

Normally on disability, those who can fulfil a part-time role can earn up to $1000 extra per month, bringing their monthly income to around $2000. A completely doable and reasonable amount to survive, if you are lucky enough to be in the health to work part-time that is.

Anyway, during your working life, you pay into an employment insurance scheme. This allows you to continue to receive a portion of your regular wages for 6 months should you be laid off or on temporary sick leave.

Absolutely fantastic program and goes a long way for those in colder climates where it is just not feasible to work in the winter.

Now, I have been paying into this scheme my whole working life in Canada and in my hour of need applied to receive such benefits.

Heres the thing. . I have been approved for $900 per month. Which you would think, perfect! That makes up the missing income and I can survive on $2000 per month, very close to the basic required income the government have assessed for this time.

Hahaha too fucking easy!! This amount gets deducted dollar for dollar from my disability income, once again leaving me with $1100 per month.

I am very very fortunate that I can make this work and I have other support systems BUT many have nothing whatsoever to fall back on. NOTHING.

Many people, even before this crisis, often choose between paying a bill or putting food on the table. Many people rely heavily on food banks. Many people have gotten themselves into unmanageable debt due to this unreasonable living amount. Many people HAVE to live on the street because the amount they are provided with does not even afford them shelter.

Don't get me wrong, something is better than nothing and we are all very very lucky to live in a country that can offer financial aid to those in need BUT it's not enough to cut it, and this crisis is shedding much light on that.

I will continue to make noise ALL over the internet, I will continue to bombard our MP's with emails highlighting this gap in the system.

The poverty divide is real and it continues.

As things break down in this crisis, NOW is the time to put them back together the way they SHOULD be.

I'm going to say this again for those internet trolls at the back of the room. .

THOSE ON INCOME ASSISTANCE ARE NOT LOOKING FOR 'FREE MONEY', THEY ARE NOT LOOKING FOR A 'FREE RIDE', THEY ARE INCAPACITATED AND LOOKING FOR HELP, THEY ARE LOOKING FOR OPTIONS TO ALLOW THEM TO SURVIVE ANOTHER DAY, THEY ARE LOOKING FOR EQUALITY IN STANDARDS OF LIVING.

I'm taking a break from social media today as some of the judgemental and downright disgusting comments to my fellow peoples in crisis really irked me yesterday.

'Stop complaining, you're getting free money and do fuck all for it'

'What do you need more money for, you out of booze?'

'You're just being greedy, you already know how to milk the system'

Like SERIOUSLY, educate yourself, find some compassion and learn to empathize with people.

God forbid the day you find yourself seriously ill and unable to cope with life's demands. God forbid you are hospitalized and without income assistance, you would lose the roof over your head. God forbid.

I've been there, pre and post hospitalization I was sleeping in my car. Within a year or so of treatment I made enough of a recovery to work but ordered by the doctor to ONLY work 16 hours per week. On minimum wage that is $750 per month before tax and employment insurance deductions. I had no other options and the doctor persuaded me to apply for this assistance. He, alongside my case worker took on the paperwork and made sure I didn't end up on the streets. Do you think I wanted to feel the way you are portraying me? Like I'm mooching off the government? Do you think I wanted to feel like a third-class citizen? I had NO choice. When my car was surrendered I had no place to go. My only option was a single bed in a house with 8 other people. I could barely afford that. I am very fortunate in my recovery that I am now easing off of assistance and supporting myself but it has been a very long, and hard journey to here. I cannot wait for the day that I say I once again rely on no one but myself AND it will happen, I'm telling you that right now, but everything takes time.

So, thanks for reading my rant haha I very much needed to get that off my chest!

Much love xo




'They say that girl you know she act too tough, tough, tough - Well it's till I turn off the light'

Tuesday, 24 March 2020

Best Foot Forward.

Ok, so below is a post I started writing last week, when everything got on top of me. . . 

” I'm trying so hard to keep it together.

It's not going as well as I'd hoped.

There have been lots of tears today. . .

I had a session with my therapist but I couldn't find the clarity to talk about my concerns rationally, it was just lots of defeatest attitude and crying.

We're all in this together, and watching people unite in hope is so inspiring.

BUT, then there's my little head. . .

I feel so bad that people are hurting right now. I mean, I have a mental illness, I'm all too versed in pain and turmoil, but I would never wish it upon anyone. I hate the idea that everyone around the world is scared, is overwhelmed, is anxious. I'm no martyr but for some reason, it hurts me more to know so many people are also in pain. I don't want all these innocent, unknowing people feeling the unease of a panic attack, I don't want people being so absurdly filled with fear that they can't move, can't think. I don't want people to become so desperate that they question the entirety of their being or even worse, wonder why or what they are doing here to the extent of self-harm or suicidal ideas.

THIS CANNOT HAPPEN. IT CAN'T.

I'm so overwhelmed. . . .”


So, YEAH! That was last week HA 

Fuck sake, how does it just spiral like that?

I was going to delete it, but I wanted you to see the path my head takes any time there’s a hint of despair. 

Sheer panic. 

I increased my meds and made some lifestyle adjustments, mainly drafting a routine and small, achievable goals. 

I took some time to clear my head and then again to think some more, this time with a bit more perspective.

We’re all in this together. We have to stand strong.

This is NOT the time to relapse. Things have been going so well up until this point & I’m not going to let my mental health deteriorate. I KNOW that I possess the education, tools & strategies to stay out of the psych ward. 

I got this.

I’m feeling a lot better. I hope you are doing well also.

Love xo




Wednesday, 18 March 2020

WOW, has it been a hot minute?

I’ve been so sidetracked for the last . . Like, what? 8 months haha

I set up an Instagram account to continue my somewhat diary of how I was doing, but I got a bit complacent.

SO much has happened I just don’t know where to start and Instagram isn’t much of a rambling place you know? I like my rambles.

I’m just going to lay it all out there.

Scotland. New home. New jobs (plural). Quit jobs (also plural). New awesome job. New York. Quit smoking. Engagement. Psychiatric discharge. New dog. Promotion. Volunteering. 

Uuuuft. I think that might be it.

Pictures?

Sure!







Could there *chandler face* BE any more to tell you?

 I’ve been living my best life, but don’t for a minute think that means bipolar still don’t try me. We have our moments but I feel like these days I’m handling it all so well.

My psychiatrist recently called me ‘ the poster child for mental health recovery’, fucking NAILING it!

Who’da thunk it?

* 5 1/2 years in recovery.
* 2 1/2 years self harm free.
* 1 1/2 years on a stable medication regime.
* 1 year panic attack free.

Some days I go to bed in disbelief but every day I wake up filled with hope, and that my friends IS recovery.

I hope you are doing well.

 Much Love xo